Tessa Cárdenas | EM Lynley's Literary Love Shack http://www.emlynley.com/blog Gay Romance: Because Love Spans the Rainbow Sat, 31 Oct 2009 13:37:07 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 8523173 Cocktoberfest: Menage and More http://www.emlynley.com/blog/cocktoberfest-menage-and-more/ http://www.emlynley.com/blog/cocktoberfest-menage-and-more/#comments Sat, 31 Oct 2009 07:15:28 +0000 http://www.emlynley.com/blog/?p=861 Tessa Cárdenas here serving as one of your guest bloggers for today. And my topic? Sex. But not just the sex by two people that you might be used to. No, I’m here to discuss how I’ve learned to deal with sex scenes with three or more men.

Now, I never planned to have to deal with this at all. After all, it’s enough of a struggle to write sex between two people. Why on earth would I want to add more? But my characters wanted to add more. They weren’t satisfied with just one boyfriend and suddenly I had to find out how three or more people could have sex.

Sex with three people isn’t just an issue of writing more names and less pronouns. No, it’s also a matter of positions, space, and of course, making sure everyone gets off in the end.

Now I’ll be honest. One of the first things I did to research my novel was watch a plethora of porn. Porn with three guys. Porn with four guys. Even porn with five guys. And I watched it all with a careful eye—research purposes only of course. I watched to see where the actors seemed to struggle and tried to figure out how much non-professionals could do.

Of course, we all know that what works in porn doesn’t all work in real life. So while it’s a fantastic visual, it’s not the end of the line in research. After failing to find informative articles online, I turned to my friends. Not everyone is lucky enough to have four friends who’ve ventured to have threesomes and foursomes, so I’ll share all of the knowledge I gathered.

It shouldn’t be a shock to find out that sex with multiple partners isn’t just about lining up on a bed and going at it. For one thing, you need at least a queen-size bed for three 6 foot men to sleep comfortably. If you want them to do more than sleep, it really does help to have a king available. After that, you have to get creative if you want everyone to get off.

I previously said that it’s not just about lining up. While that might be an option, three-way doggie style might not fit so well on the bed, and two people thrusting at once can get awkward when the thrusts aren’t timed well and cocks start slipping out. If you really want everyone to get off, it’s often better to mix it up. Let guy A get off with a blowjob while he’s being fucked by guy B and then let both of them suck off guy C together. Handjobs, blowjobs, and fucking in any combination can work.

I have to say I’ve never thought so much about the sex aspect of a story before this. Usually, I just let it all play out as it goes along, but for threesome or foursome sex scenes I find myself blocking out each sex scene before I can even start!

But even with the extra research, (which I can’t say I mind all the time) I’ve enjoyed my explorations into writing and reading polyamorous sex. Now I’d love to see what y’all think about it.

Have you read polyamorous sex before? Do like reading stories with it? Does the sex appeal to you more or the relationship?

Comment on this post for a chance to win an ebook version of The Strongest Shape. The book will be released November 6th with all the threesome sex you could want in one novel!

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